Monday, April 25, 2011

It's Not The 90's Anymore...Unfortunately

My kids are all public school children...for now. While I love the time alone from September to mid-June, I get a rude awakening when I hear stories about some of the young middle school girls in my daughter's home room. What I thought was a better environment for my child is turning out NOT to be. When I hear "Sydnie is one of the good girls at school and there are only like 5 of us!" I cringe and want to keep her home, locked in her room until she is 21. When I see marks on the arms of 12yr olds that are from a game called "Eraser", I am reminded of what I used to do only I was in high school. What ever happened to sleepovers, prank calling, bloody Mary and toilet papering people's houses? Now there's sex, drugs, smoking and running away before you even get out of middle school!

Like I wrote before, I'm not a perfect mother or wife, nor do I try to be, but I DO strive to raise my children to the best they can be. I want them to succeed in life, not fail. They walk out the door in the morning KNOWING that if they EVER do anything like what these girls and boys in middle school are doing (smoking, sneaking out in the middle of the night, talking nasty to their parents, even "making out" with the opposite sex because they think they can) that I will personally sign their death certificate and hand it to the coroner then throw myself in jail! I know what I did as a teenager and I was NOT nice to my mom all the time, but I did NOT disrespect her the way these kids do. If I were to ever speak to my mother the way I hear some of these kids speak to their parents, I would have false front teeth right now. If I came home with eraser burns at the age of 12, I'm pretty sure she would have done something equally as drastic. Again, I wasn't perfect then, but I had respect and I teach my children respect...even if I have to threaten bodily harm. (I kid...kinda)

With that said, I am really thinking about pulling my children and home schooling them if we do not get transferred out of Norfolk or if we do not sell this house and move somewhere "safer" or more up to my "standards". I'm not quite sure what my standards are, but I just don't want my 12yr old being one of the ONLY good girls in school. I'd like her to have a lot of people she can rely on, not just a select few. And I don't want to feel like I have to be afraid of becoming a grandmother in the near future just because these girls are so so very influential. Ugh. Being a mom is really hard work. Anyone want my job?

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

I Don't Have To Be Perfect

Over the years, mostly the past 7yrs of being a "housewife", I have often been jealous of fellow mothers and the neat and tidiness of their homes when I would visit for playdates or get togethers. It always made me feel like less of a person because I couldn't be that neat and clean, always dust-free, not a speck of food on the counter. As I got older, the feeling got worse and grew into a sort of phobia. I really didn't like the super clean freaks to come to my house because I didn't want to be judged by how much dust was on my TV stand or how many kool aid stains were on the kitchen counter.

I've always kept my house CLEAN, but there has always been clutter somewhere in plain sight. To the average OCDer, my house would drive them to the looney bin. In order for there not to be dust on things, I would have to dust every single day and, well, that's just not gonna happen. In order to get rid of all the stains on my kitchen counters and floor, them bitches have to be replaced and unless someone can give us $10,000...that isn't happening either.

I am a housewife, yes, and keeping house is my "job", but it is not my life. I have 3 beautiful children to tend to as well as 3 dogs, a pool, friends, a husband, school, my crafting business and whatever else my happy butt wants to do. I'm not perfect in any way, shape or form, but I think if I can keep my house clean, free from mice (another post in it's own!!) and pests and do the laundry so the people who live here don't stink when they leave, I am doing my job. I am a mom and mom's don't have to be perfect.

*_*Rachelle*_*
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Friday, March 25, 2011

Day 10...Who's Laughing Now?! (my homework)

It is coming to the end of the 10th day of being off the "crack". I DID have to log on and post to some people to get addresses for my Pay-it-Forward 2011 gifts and once today to tag one of my Pay-it-Forward 2011 recipients and boy did I get crap from one of my friends JUST for doing that! All that matters is that I went a FULL WEEK without even rolling my cursor over that word even once! And if anyone knows my routine they would know the first thing I do after clicking on the Safari circle is to click on the "crack" button. I proved to my mother and my husband and to my disbelieving friends that I could stay away for longer than 3 days. (Ass holes) Even if I did log on, it wasn't to update my status, check up on my friends or do anything but ask for some addresses and post some pictures. Before my sabbatical I was on there all day long. I sat at my computer from the time I got up until I went to sleep taking breaks only to take and pick up kids from school and to make dinner. Occasionally I would clean up, do some laundry, run a mop over my floors, but I neglected so much. I napped every day because I used my eyes so much on the damn computer.

In the 10 days I have been off I have gotten caught up on house work and sewing, laundry can kiss my ass is always backed up and school work... I've been doing so much around the house that (like how I changed the subject?!) I have been falling asleep sitting up watching TV with my husband by about 2200 every night. It's sad, really. When I was on the "crack" I could stay up all hours of the night. Huh. Kinda like the real thing! In 4 short days my 2 week sabbatical will be up and I will be back on the "crack", updating and posting as usual. Probably not on like I used to because my house smells MUCH better when I take care of it and so do my kids!(Kidding) I will probably give myself a schedule and include blogging as part of my computer time. Gots to keep my 7 followers up to date on my "crack" usage!

Saturday, March 19, 2011

4 Days, 5 POUNDS!!

I never thought that taking a sabbatical from Z-crack would allow me to lose weight! I have been off the Z-crack, a.k.a. Facebook, for almost 4 days and have lost 5 pounds as of this morning! I was so astonished that I even changed the battery to be sure. Shoot, this just might be worth the 14 days away from all the maddness! My house is clean, dishes are done, floors swept...

Some ask why I am doing this and my answer: because I can. Honestly, because I am going to be super busy next week and want to prep myself for not being ABLE to be online at all for the whole week. I have 1 day the whole week when I am not doing anything and that is Friday. I think I will plan to drink some wine! Monday is ball practice, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday are medical appointments for the kids so yes, yes, yes, Friday is definitely a wine day!

It helps that I have things to keep me busy. I am, however, behind on my schoolwork...STILL. That is the one thing I wanted to keep up with. I am sad that I haven't kept up with it. I just can't get into the groove of "Investment Planning' and all the formulas. I have a study plan, but it just isn't interesting enough for me to sit down when I have an extra hour or two. I'd rather watch a few episodes of Bones or Days of our Lives or play some Angry Birds on my iPod. I have priorities, sheesh!

4 days down...10 more to go!

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Facebook Sabbatical...

This is day 1 of my facebook sabbatical and I must say I have done a damn good job at it! I feel like I am out of the loop, but I have to remember that there WAS life before Mark Zuckerberg's crack. I got quite a bit done today without my Z-crack but with the help of my liquid crack 5hr Energy and Amp. Yep, I found a new love! YAY! I didn't do ANY homework, just HOUSEwork but shit, my HOUSE needed it. The homework can wait. I have a ton of things on my "to do" list and I have only crossed off like 2 out of the ton.

I started my day by shopping for cleaning supplies. While there I found some cute bags on clearance that I immediately got an awesome craft idea for for my girls and 2 of their friends. Once home, I turned on my tunes and cleaned the bathroom, organizing and throwing away 1 bag of shit I hoarded crap, cleaned and organized the area I call the pit of more shit I hoard missing things getting 2 more bags of crap and 1 bag of flat sheets (who uses those things anyway?) to send to Salvation Army. I then took a break to work on my awesome craft idea. I embroidered the kids' names on the bags for impromptu gifts! How exciting! By the time I was done, it was time to get the kid. When we got back I finished folding and putting away the sheets, checked all my email (perused the internet), yelled at the boy to finish his homework then loaded everyone into the van for free kids meal night at Hooters!

After Hooters, we came home. The kids fed the dogs and wrote Uncle Mike letters, dad did homework and I cleaned the kitchen...like REALLY cleaned it. I threw out another bag of shit I hoarded crap! Swept and mopped the floor, put everything in its place and set the dishwasher to start at midnight...to save energy. I then sat here reading Craigslist ads like I used to, BEFORE Zuckerberg Crack.

1 day down...13 more to go. I can DO this.

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Monday, November 1, 2010

Christmas Giveaway Event - 4K in Prizes!

Christmas Giveaway Event - 4K in Prizes!

This is an AWESOME giveaway! Just click on the link to go to the page and ENTER!! It will be worth it...especially to the winner, who will be winning over $4,000 in prizes! All the prizes can be viewed at http://faithfullyfrugal-and-free.com/giftguide2010/ Good luck and HAPPY ENTERING!!!



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Thursday, October 7, 2010

Well You Got To Have...

...Faith. God has been on my mind a whole lot lately. There are so many things going on in my life that I have turned to Him for guidance. Some days I feel like He is listening, other days I feel my prayers are falling on deaf ears. My mom always told me that God doesn't give us more than we can handle and He is always there to pick us up when we fall...then why do I feel like I have fallen and no one has picked me up yet? I know that not all prayers are answered, I get that, but sometimes it seems like NONE of mine are and that's hard on the Faith! Believe me, I have more faith than most mothers of 3, but I sometimes have a hard time BELIEVING. Is that wrong? There are times I wonder what it would be like to be Jewish, Hindu, Mormon, a Buddhist...just something other than Christian. I wonder if the prayers are the same even though the God is different. I wonder if believing in another God would get more of my prayers answered. I KNOW I shouldn't feel this way if I have a strong FAITH in my creator, but I do. I believe there is a higher being, but I am not sure that I am praying to the right one. How can I find my way? I feel lost. It puts a big hole in a part of my life I thought was filled. I need to step back and take a look at my history with God and Jesus and whomever else I prayed TO as a Catholic child. My beliefs are...well, I think they are confused. I'm not sure what to do. My strong faith in a higher being is really messing with me. I don't like feeling this emptiness when I should feel FULL. Something is missing...something is WRONG...something just isn't me.

I have NO motivation or reasoning behind how I am feeling. I just woke up feeling like this...or maybe going to this new church and new denomination 2yrs ago just wasn't what I needed. I have no motivation to complete certain things in my life that are concrete like going back to my seasonal job, finishing school, getting my business going, teaching those angels at church. I know I CAN do it all, I just don't WANT to. Where did it all go? That motivation to DO, HONOR, SERVE??

I love every aspect of my life EXCEPT this awful feeling of emptiness. I need somewhere to turn...any suggestions?


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Sunday, September 5, 2010

Lookin' For a NEW Name...

Ok fellow followers and bloggers, it is time for me to change my blog name. Yes, I say no alot to my kiddos, but I want something catchy and up to date. I NEED something that fits me and makes me WANT to write more. I am going to attempt to fit blogging into my daily routine. If not every day, every OTHER day. I want to get my thoughts out of my poor brain instead of keeping them couped up. It sucks to have so much to write or say but I just don't do it. I wanna do it! So, I want to ask my followers/readers to help me out...help me pick a name! I will leave this open for a few days and then pick a winner. The winner will get some sort of gift, haven't decided on that just yet, but I am crafty, so we shall see!

So, what do YOU think my blog should be named? Get creative!

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Monday, August 30, 2010

Save Money, Save Time, Save Your Sanity

Saving money is fun, most of the time. Figuring out HOW to save the money is the not-so-fun part. When we made the decision to stop cable, I figured it out that we would be saving a little over $100 a month. So what to do with this extra cash? Well, we decided to go ahead and "invest in" the school lunch program. Wouldn't you know it, the total for 3 kiddos is a little over $100 a month! When figuring lunches INTO our monthly budget, I figured that we would actually SAVE with them eating school lunch. How? Well let me break it down for you!

We have 3 kids so I am going to do this for 1 child then multiply it by 3 at the end.

Juice/drink - Most juice comes in a 10-pack and runs about $2 a pack. 1 child would use 5 juices per week, 20 juices per month so 2 10-packs or $4 per month for 1 child. ($12 for 3)

Sandwhich - Now, depending on what you send, this can be pricey, so let's stick to good old PB&J! The average loaf of bread costs around $2 a loaf and has about 20 slices of bread. 1 child would use 2 slices per day, 10 slices per week, 40 slices a month, so about 2 loaves or $4 per month for bread for 1 child. ($12 for 3)

Peanut butter can be bought for roughly $4 a jar and that jar should last 1 child 1 month or more. With my 3, I can get away with 2 jars a month so $8 a month for PB.

Jelly. Ugh. $2 or so per container that will probably last 1 child a week, maybe 2. So say you have to buy 3 jars of jelly per month, that's $6 a month for Jelly for 1. ($18 for 3)

Fruit - Depending on what is in season, fruit can be expensive. Bananas last about a week for 5, apples last a whole lot longer and oranges, well, oranges are super exspensive here so we only get them in the summer! Let's go with apples. They come in singles, 3lb and 5lb bags. Most economical would be the 5lb bag and that will run you about $6. There are about 9-12 apples in that bag but we will go with the lower. If you have 1 child, the bag will last you 2 weeks so 2 bags, 1 month, $12. (My 3 $36 per month)

Snack - Crackers are a hit, especially goldfish, and sometimes I allow cookies. My kids are stingy, but for economical purposes, we are going to keep with 1 snack and go with the cheapest, crackers. A 10-pk of crackers runs about, as the others, $2 and will last 2 weeks for 1 child. So that means 2 10pks for 1 month equals $4 a month for 1 child. ($12 for 3)

Totals - School lunch runs $32 a month for elementary school and $35 a month for middle school. I can tell you now that it is a S-T-E-A-L! Anyway, for a family with 1 child to pack a lunch every day, the food alone would run you about $34 a month. This doesn't include lunch bags, sandwich bags, anything extra like spoons for yogurt or pudding or if you have lunch meat instead of PB&J. For 3 kiddos, and MY kiddos at that, it would run around $98 per month plus all the bags, spoons and extras.

All-in-all, it may seem like we aren't saving anything by making the kids buy lunch at school, but we really are. We are saving a TON, including my sanity. I cannot tell you how many times in the past few years I have had to run a lunch to school for it being left in the van or a sandwich was left on the counter or the kids forgot to mention we ran out of juice until 5 minutes before we had to leave for school so they had to buy milk anyway. It's easier, cheaper and saves me from worrying if my 2nd grader is going to tell his teacher he left his lunch at home when it's really in his backpack just so he could have pizza and I could owe the cafeteria $1.75 at the end of the week.

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Sunday, August 22, 2010

The Girl Who Has Everything...

I've always loved Ariel, you know, that red-headed princess from that one Disney movie? She reminds me of myself, not ONLY because she keeps a cave full of "treasures", but because she lives in the ocean, has a semi-spastic best friend who listens to everything she says and is in love with a handsome prince. (Not that my husband is a prince, but he IS handsome!) Ah, who am I kidding? Ariel and I are alike because I, too, want more!

I want a better paying job, a bigger house, no bills, a better sex life but most of all, I want my child to be okay. See, she has always been "off", ever since she was able to throw her bottle at me when she was done with it. The doctors call it "flinging". Now "flinging" is supposed to cease with most children by the age of 3 but with my daughter, well, she still flings! Unfortunately when she does, it is usually in anger and it usually means she is flinging something to break it. My child is currently being evaluated for ADHD and bipolar disorder. She has been evaluated in the past, but she was too young for a definitive diagnosis. Some problems have come to light recently so we have decided to move ahead with further testing.

The problems doctors are having with diagnosing GIRLS with ADHD is that they don't show the "H" part as outwardly as boys do. Their "H" can include such things as chewing on their hair or clothing, talking excessively or out of turn, being "too bossy" to their friends or siblings, messiness, not finishing their work, not being able to follow simple tasks without step-by-step instruction. I can tell you all, from experience, that most, if not all of the above, happens in my house DAILY and it is frustrating. There was a point in time when my daughters sudden rage, which is a symptom of the bipolar, was so bad, it threatened our marriage. She would throw herself off her bed onto the hardwood floor and "promise to break a bone so" we would go to jail. It was a nightmare to hear that come from a 4yr old!

She has been to a therapist before, been evaluated before, been on medication before and I didn't like any of it because of my strong belief that children should not be medicated. I adjusted her diet (and ours) so that we could go medication-free and it had worked for 5+ years...but it is no longer an option. Hormones will soon play a huge role in her life and will start to make ALL of our lives a living nightmare. We can already tell the diet isn't helping, the rage is back, the inattentiveness, sloppiness, bossiness...it's all quickly returning. I am a scared mom right now. I want to be the girl who has everything, you know, Ariel? But I can't when my baby is hurting so bad mentally.

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