Friends...Can't Live With Them...Can't Live Without Them!

I am the one who answers the phone at 2am when someone needs to chat because they are drunk, in emotional pain, or just need someone to talk to. I am the one who everyone else turns to when they need that friend to vent to just because I am here and really have nothing else to do. I am the one that puts myself out there FOR the venting and the phone calls and really, honestly, I do NOT mind, not one bit. I was put on this earth to help and that is what I do...at least I THINK that is what I do.

Some days I think that the more I say, the more advice I give, the more people ignore it. Some days I think that when I talk, it is to a brick wall and brick walls, well, they do not talk back! Some days I think I would be better off ignoring the venting friend because it puts me smack dab in the middle of drama that I do not want to be involved in. Some days I think that some people THRIVE on drama like it was their way to breathe. Well guess what? Drama sucks the life right out of you.

What is my point. Hmmm...good question. My point would be that first of all, for a woman, it is really hard to find other women that you can actually stand to be in the same room with. Once you find women you can tolerate, it is equally hard, if not harder, to make FRIENDS with those women because women are catty bitches. Women tend to "click" and once they "click" they bond and once they bond it is hard to break that bond and join that "click". IF you can break that bond just a little bit and nudge your way in to that "click", it is really hard to find that ONE person you can call best friend. Shit, even if you get in, it's hard to find someone you can call your GOOD friend! Sometimes it is even hard to STAY once you get in. It is like trying to join a group with dues...there is always SOME price to pay.

I believe there is a reason why each and every person enters and exits your life. A while back a high school friend of mine found something and posted it on myspace and I stole borrowed it from her. It makes complete sense especially when thinking about your friends, what they really mean to you and what they mean to your life. I know when I first read it I thought, 'I could have written this myself.' It is my thoughts, in a blog, EXACTLY.

So, humor me, my stalkers, and read the passage below. Remember that everyone comes into your life for a reason and they leave for a reason as well. It might hurt when they leave, but maybe it is what is right. You may THINK you want them to leave, but maybe this is a time you need to grow together and learn. Patience is a virtue...

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

With that said, I want to thank you all for being a part of my life, whether you are a reason, a season or a lifetime.

TTFN,

Mama Roho